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May 25, 2012
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[TW: rape] When I was 16, I had a fake I.D. and decided to go to a gay bar by myself because some friends bailed on me. While there, an older gentleman bought me a drink. He wasn’t a creeper, and he definitely wasn’t unattractive. I accepted the drink and began talking to him. No big deal. As the hour progressed, I felt myself feeling strange. I mentioned that I felt like I had a headache, and this guy helped guide me out of the bar. As we were walking down the street, the thought of, ‘Oh god, he’s drugged me, I’m going to die’ came to my head. I tried to get away, but I was so drugged up that I could barely walk, let alone speak. It also didn’t help that I had really large ‘goth’ platform shoes because I was going through a phase. Anyway, this guy brought me to his suv and began undressing me. As a final act of defiance, I hit him over the head with my platform shoe. He then punched me, and I remember thinking, ‘Why don’t they ever give workshops to gay guys about being victims of rape too?’ While I was as careful as possible, I never saw the guy slip something in the drink. I even watched the bar tender make the drink. Anyway, I lied there completely paralyzed while this pervert was lubing up. I locked eyes with his for a moment, and that’s when it happened. A very large and angry drag queen opened the door of the vehicle and beat the shit out of my attempted rapist. She and her other drag friends helped dress and care for me while the police arrived. I was saved by a group of guardian drag queens. They were basically the modern day ‘angels from heaven.’

yolo-tier:

welcome-to-the-sinners-ball:

imgayitsok:

God bless drag queens.

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May 19, 2012
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this is a really cool speech given in 1970 by huey newton, co-founder of the black panthers, about womens rights and gay rights

lipstick-feminists:

[content: one use of a homophobic slur, a brief mention of anti-gay violence]

vvarinn:

if anything, its really interesting how he basically cops to his own prejudices, but then says that he’s gotta deal with them on his own time and move past them

its just a really cool read, imo, please check it out thanks

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May 14, 2012
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Black Girl Dangerous: Day 454: On Patriarchy, Power, Desire and, Of Course, Hair

blackgirldangerous:

by Mahfam Malek

Today? Oh, am I ever struggling with notions of masculinity and femininity and the in-between and the outside-of.

Over the past couple of days at work I have been subjected to the highest concentration of the toxic combination of male gaze and male boundary-pushing aggression…

“What the fuck kind of rape culture do we live in that this lizard thought informing me that he’s into “pushing boundaries” was some kind of pick-up line? This level of entitlement and male privilege and power show make me want to vomit.”

Tags: queer gender rape rape culture

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May 12, 2012
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"I find it sort of hilarious how even the LEAST attractive men swear that every homosexual man has them in their sights. I suppose these straight men can only operate within their own frame of reference: Men that patriarchy has conditioned to regard women as walking vaginas are likely to imagine that the Queer Other is similarly dehumanizing, objectifying, and preying upon men. And perhaps they are correct, but isn’t turnabout fairplay?"

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Son of Baldwin

I feel like I almost reblog him “too much.” But he’s so on point!

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May 12, 2012
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FYGIRLCRUSH: Consent

girlebony:

I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.

Consent is:

  • Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16 times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still did not adequately obtain consent. Also, you’re a weak individual.
  • Not fixed: What I mean by this is you shouldn’t take for granted that after asking once for consent that you now have consent forever. It’s not like landing a gig as a Supreme Court judge. You don’t have consent for life. It should be continuously negotiated.
  • Dynamic: Related to the above note, consent for one act does not necessitate consent for all acts. Consent is not an EZ Pass. It should be re-addressed constantly for different acts.
  • Conscious: Yeah, I want to believe I don’t have to explain this one. Bad enough I had to list it. But ok, yes, an inebriated/asleep/passed out or otherwise not fully coherent person cannot consent. There, you can’t say no one ever told you.
  • Unambiguous/Explicit: Assume all of the following to mean “no.” — “Maybe,” “I’m not sure,” “Not yet,” “Kinda,” “Wait a minute,” …I could go on.
  • Not contingent upon sexual interest nor sexual arousal: We know. Blue balls are a motherfucker. Still no excuse. Neither your NOR the expressed/implied interest of any potential partners is an invitation to any act. Also, neither your nor the (assumed) arousal of anyone you might want to have sex with is an invitation. Yes, someone might be aroused and still not want to fuck. Crazy times. I know.
  • Not compensatory: Yeah, that dinner and a movie were nice. Still not an invitation to fuck. And if you thought it was, you’re a world class asshole.
  • Not something that requires a qualifier: No one needs to explain why they are not granting you consent. No is enough.
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May 10, 2012
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fuckyeahbeards: <3

fuckyeahbeards:


<3

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May 06, 2012
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May 06, 2012
"I don’t hate women at all. I just think there are some jobs they shouldn’t do. Like be firefighters for example. Or be in the front line of battle. And it’s not about ability, I’m not one of those douches who are going to say it’s about ability. I just think there are other lives that should go down before they do…like if anything, they’re more important. Like I don’t think men are better than women…I just think they should do different things. If you were less open-minded you would think I’m just being a sexist asshole right now, but you see what I’m saying."

— A sexist asshole at a party tonight

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April 13, 2012
Vaginas: Your Vagina Isn't Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy&mdash;It's Also Too Brown(via @Jezebel)

There just isn’t enough racism in the misogyny these days.

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April 09, 2012
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stfuconfederates:

It isn’t about feeling guilty for being white, it’s about motivating yourself and other white people to stand up against a culture which permits the murder of people of color to go unreported and blames them for getting angry about it. Not to mention the wage gap, stigmas perpetuated about people of color, misrepresentation in the media, etc. If the aforementioned pisses you off less than being asked to shut up and listen or admit that white privilege does exist, you have a serious problem.

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